Are You An Introvert?
I just read with some amusement Psychology Today’s description of an introvert as someone who regarded going to a party as being held in a holding cell. That may sound dramatic, but for some introverts, this may be the case.
Socially, the biggest different between introverts and extroverts lies in their expression…not their sociability. For example, an introvert may be having a scintillating conversation inside his own mind, with his own flowery asides about what is going on at the party. “Oh, there’s Fred…haven’t seen him in years! Wonder who he’s with?…yada, yada, yada.” To the casual extroverted observer, it appears that the introverted partygoer is bored or even wallflowery. This usually prompts the dreaded question, “Are you having fun?”
Fun for an introvert is a small group gathering where ideas can be exchanged and pondered. Large parties are simply tolerated. Parties require quick off-the-cuff responses. This is where the introvert brain is constantly playing catch up. Introverts filter their thoughts and then decide which thoughts to share. Extroverts share almost every thought with little filtering. Extraverts are more likely to say things like, “Oh, I really wish I hadn’t said that,” while introverts say, “This is what I should have said.”
Introverts usually need downtime after socializing. So, if you are an introvert and you’re going to a party, I have four words for you…take your own car.